Several years ago, I read Janis Spindel’s book Get Serious About Getting Married-365 Ways To Find Love In Less Than A Year. Not sure how long it took me after I read the book to find love, but it certainly showed me 179 ways I had overlooked.
Janis Spindel is a world renowned author, matchmaker and dating expert. She finds women for an “elite clientele of men” and has trained some of the best including The Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger.
Spindel is quick to note that she is not a dating agency. According to Forbes she is “the reigning queen of the matchmaking world”. Spindel provides a lifestyle option for women, and men. She gives women a chance to make their love goals a reality. Because of her amazing track record, she has been featured on CNN, the Today Show, ABC, The New York Times magazine and much more.
“I want women who are not drama queens. I want women who are available”, says Spindel.
This statement can come off as a surprise to some women. Who would ever think they’re a drama queen or emotionally unavailable? But the truth is, many women are drama queens and the stories they create about why they are single make them emotionally unavailable.
The drama can be from your past, or a relationship you want to recreate, and the emotional unavailability stems from all the lists and demands that women expect one guy to meet.
It’s really all counter-intuitive. Spindel helps women hone in on what they need, straight no chaser, and if you listen to her, really listen to her, you can get married.
“I don’t give women second chances,” says Spindel, about those who break her rules. When you are ready for love, you better come correct.
On her website she writes:
I know people and I know how to listen. I’ll find you the mate of your dreams, with a combination of your wish list and my uncanny sixth sense of who may be right for you-people you might not have imagined, but may pleasantly surprise you….
Spindel’s process entails having to pass interviews and various levels to finally meet your match. Club J-Love is the first step and includes an “outer circle” option with a $25 registration fee.
Some are selected to participate in the “inner circle” option with a $200 registration fee, where you go through a series of interviews with Spindel or her assistants. That’s when it actually becomes possible to meet your prospective future husband. Spindel does not provide all identity info to her female members of any male matches.
“Women do not get last names of the men because they go straight to Google.”
And how many women can attest to that? Most of the time, when you google men before a date, you set preconceived notions and expectations that can derail a relationship that hasn’t even started. There should be some mystery left.
Some of the most important criteria for women members are “beauty, brains, body and balance”. And the criteria for male members are high, too, because they are “not just looking for arm candy” and come to her to find a committed relationship.
All clients should be upscale, professional, and commitment minded. For more on Janis Spindel Serious Matchmaking, Inc. please visit her website at www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com.